I have fully grasped the meaning of “lean not on your own understanding”. Growing up, I have always questioned the outcome of my personal and professional relationships, and I often replayed the scenarios in my head to figure out what went wrong. I stressed out trying to hold unto something that wasn’t meant for me. Every day I pray to be exceptional and then sabotage myself when blessings come my way. Recently, situations have been revealed to me, knowing that I made the right choice in letting go and that certain people in my life did not deserve my presence. I’m still learning about myself, but the goal is to stop holding on to the people and things that are seasons and believe that I’m worthy of the blessings that come my way.

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Happiness is found by looking within to find out who you are as a person and choosing to accept all aspects. When you take the time to date yourself, you will automatically align yourself with the opportunities for your success. It will be easier for you will know your worth, so settling will not be an option. You tell God that you don’t deserve your blessings when you settle, and we both know that is just the self-doubt talking. Be kind to yourself, as this journey requires patience and consistency to unlearn all the negative words. You are worth it, so take a little bit out of your day today and every day to create this connection.

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I have been extremely fortunate not to have any serious physical illness, but I have been plagued with a severe condition called fear. I have allowed fear to control my life because I have been brought up in a society conditioned to stay within the confines of its environment and shame anyone who thinks differently. As a child, I have always been different and confident in my uniqueness. However, it was hard to stay that way when the older generation made it a point to criticise. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will fundamentally restructure a child’s view on life. All I saw were people living in fear, so I became that person and made my decisions based on fear.

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People always say that you should set your expectations low to avoid disappointment. Imagine if you did that for every new phase in your life; you’d be dead inside. I think a new way of looking at this is to know why you are blessed with this encounter. That way, you’ll be motivated to push yourself to get the most out of it. Even if things didn’t work, you would now have the skills to propel you to the next phase in your life.

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Sometimes the worse thing you can do is sulk in regret and replay scenarios where you made the “right” decision. But, what really is the right decision when your future is altered based on your most recent decision? This is why it is so essential to honestly know yourself; understand your core values, and be deeply rooted in your belief. Then, when you get to that point in life where you need to make a decision, it will be easy as the best option will align with your base values. It’s hard work dating and getting to know yourself, but it is worth it in the end!

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Sometimes the image of what SHOULD BE is the very thing that prevents us from succeeding. This “SHOULD” idea comes from what others expect but not what we may want for ourselves. We have been bombarded with expectations from people who never took the time to know our values. Getting rid of the “SHOULD” mentality to assess our core values is vital in preventing the weight of unrealistic expectations and fostering our growth.

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Sometimes I have this urge to leave it all behind and help family and friends. I do follow that urge sometimes, and most times, I come out of it drained. I have realised that I need to say no, go work on myself and keep working on myself until I’m in a space where I can accommodate the energy of others.

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